Christmas is the time of the year when we come together with family – if we still have one. Sometimes we travel for miles to spend these days together. Sometimes they visit us. Sometimes we do not meet at all.
For one it is a real joy to be together, have fun and share precious moments. For others it can be absolutely stressful and chaotic – or a time of unhappiness and solitude.
The celebration of peace on earth is not always a peaceful celebration and it can easily trigger old and long buried emotions and reactions.
If you belong to the lucky ones who are really looking forward knowing that it will be a wonderful time – you might also jump the next paragraphs and go directly to the 2019 news.
If your Christmas, however, could become a bit of an issue, you might just continue reading.
Family is where we come from. Family is the first group we belong to. So we premise that family is where we should feel safe and accepted as we are. But it isn’t always like this. And you know why? Simply because our mothers and fathers and their mothers and fathers and so on – they all once were children as we were / or still feel we are. And as we had to grow with unfulfilled expectations, delusion and difficult or heartbreaking situations, also they had. And the same is true for our siblings, uncles, aunts, cousins, etc.
And now imagine that you all come together at a time of the year where not only you, but all of them might be full of expectations, more vulnerable and emotional. You can see where I am going?
Now take a step back and imagine your children, parents, siblings, aunts, uncles, grandparents, nieces, nephew, cousins etc. – imagine them there right in front of you without them knowing that you are here. And now open your heart and see the child in everyone, the child that has been hurt, abandoned, disappointed, rejected, abused. The child that only wants one thing – the same that you want. To be accepted as they are – with their flaws, their shame, their guilt, their dreams, their crazy ideas or hidden longings. With all, that makes them these special members of your family. And you are part of it, you belong, as all of them do.
Oh, and I might hear you say: “It is not my family – it’s my partner’s family!” Well, isn’t the same true for them, too ….?
Look at all of them through the eyes of your heart and allow change to happen. May love and reconciliation find their way to your hearts.
I wish you from the heart a peaceful and special Christmas.
Ursula
I am really happy and grateful that I live close enough to travel to Malta 4 times a year to continue my work and meet you all. The Maltese constellation family is growing and this means that the spirit of constellations and of the “orders of love” finds its way to your families and friends.
Please remember: Constellations can only be done when people decide to join as representatives. It is a work of give and take. Don’t just join to do your own constellation. Consider joining another workshop as a representative to give back to community what they gave to you. Thank you.
My next visits in Malta are as follows:
January 2019
Constellation workshops:
January 18th 2019 (evening) + January 19th and 20th 2019 (whole day)
I am also offering 1to1 sessions via Skype now. If you want to book a session, please get in touch via email: u.bell@ursulamariabell.com
You have friends or family in England who might be interested in the constellation work? Please share my UK website – thank you. https://constellations.ursulamariabell.com/
