Sometimes people ask me „what are the issues or questions I can work on in a constellation?“.
Well the beautiful thing is, that a constellation (whether in a group session or a 1to1 1 session) can be helpful in a large number of life circumstances – no matter whether it has to do with personal or relationship issues, professional questions, health issues or as a simple support in a decision making situation.
However, the most important thing is – and I repeat this again and again in my workshops – a constellation is not a magic wand. It sets a process in motion – on a level that lies beyond our intellectual and scientifically explainable capacity. In a constellation we come in contact with something that is not tangible and yet touches us. Something disentangles, changes within ourselves and thus in our relationships in and with the world. We leave our limited human perception behind us that divides, classifies, evaluates, defends and blinds itself to the unknown and we connect with our intuition, with another level to which we normally have only very restricted access. A constellation changes, consoles, breaks up crusts, makes us more transparent and opens our eyes to something bigger that connects all of us.
It is this inner attitude, this gentle – often imperceptible – inner change, in conjunction with the constellation itself that ultimately initiates an external change. Not in the “magic wand mode”, but according to our own inner pace and according to our openness to allow this inner change to happen and to integrate it in our outer life.
Ultimately, it is always our own responsibility for our actions, for what we think and say, for what we want to hold on or are willing to let go.
The biggest changes in the outside I see among the people who allow this process, who trust that something has already changed, who let go of the “but” and “why” and accept “what is”. They suddenly understand that everything makes sense, even what seemed to be completely unreasonable, problematic or bad in the past.
There are certainly many approaches that can change a life to the better, make it easier and turn it in a positive direction. The constellation approach is one of them, and I am incredibly grateful that I came across it, went through a profound training and am allowed to work with it. It not only changes the lives of my clients, it has also changed my life (and still does). For me the “orders of love” have become a philosophy of life. In my everyday human existence, they help me to let go, breathe, and make the right decisions.
At this point, I would like to express my heartfelt thanks to all of you who trust me and my work. You are all part of this wonderful process. Constellation work is peace work – carry these thoughts of reconciliation into your families and into the world. This is how change can happen.
Change is also the theme of my next weekend workshop on November 18./19.2017 – “Turning points”. Perhaps you know someone who is at such a turning point in their life, or perhaps you are facing one yourself. Through this link you will learn more about the program of the workshop. As always, the number of participants is limited to 8, so that everyone has a chance to really work on their issue.
I would also like to announce a special weekend workshop on the 2nd and 3rd of December. This time it is a workshop only for men with the title “The man I am”. In a safe space, participants can work on their relationship with mothers or/and fathers or their role as man in a relationship. I am very much looking forward to it and would like to heartily invite all of you who feel addressed. Soon there will be more information on my website and also on Facebook.
Till the end of the year there will still be 2 Family Constellation Days – one on the 12th of November (only 2 places for representatives left) and the second one on the 10th of December. On the 30th of October, a Family Constellation Evening will take place only in Italian language – so if you speak Italian and would like to participate as a representative, please get in touch with me.
The program for the first half of 2018 will be published until the end of November.
Wishing you all a golden October and sending you love and light