Dear Subscriber,
My last stay in Malta showed a topic that run through private sessions and constellation workshops – it was about choices. So I decided to write this newsletter about the choices that we have in life.
When people choose to do a constellation or choose therapy, sometimes they expect the constellation, the therapist or the counsellor to do magic. Some people are convinced to have no choices in life because of their upbringing, their childhood experiences and whatever they have gone through. Some people ask themselves “why does all this happen to me?”.
Victor E. Frankl, the father of logotherapy and existential analysis, said: “It is not us asking life the question “why?”. It is life asking us: “What do you make of the situation you are in? How do you handle it? How do you give it a meaning?””
And with this, everything changes. He called it the “Copernican revolution”. A revolution, because it turns everything around. It changes us from being victims to being active creators of our own lives. And sometimes it only takes this awareness to make the next step toward a life changing decision.
So we have always a possibility to choose, because we are human beings. Frankl said that we decide in this moment who we are going to be in the next one. And this means that we can take over and/or back our responsibility for our life – in every moment and in every situation.
