For this newsletter I decided to draw a card from the card deck I use in my workshops, and write about what would show up. This is the card.
When you look at the picture closely you might discover that the rock has two different sides. The right side looks like a human profile – forehead, nose, chin. The left side looks like a bear’s nose.
Meditating a bit on this card made me think of 2 things. First: we all have at least two parts within us that might be totally different from each other. Second: we all somehow wear a human mask trying to hide what is underneath, maybe trying to hide our true self.
And here are my thoughts about difference and true self
We all want to belong somewhere, we want to be seen, to be acknowledged as who we are and in what we have to offer. We want to show our beauty and true self to the world around us….. and this is where we stop, where the fear starts.
We stop because we start comparing ourselves to others and we think that we should be like them. And of course we always compare ourselves with people that we consider better, more beautiful, more interesting, more intelligent, more experts (and I could go ahead with a long list of more ….). In short, with people who are different from us (or at least we think that they are).
So we start feeling different ourselves and we always see our own “being different” as something negative. And since life often is a mirror of what we believe in, we meet people who make us even feel more different and more inadequate. And we end up in wanting to be different from what or who we are.
Isn’t this crazy? I feel the craziest thing is that we believe in this kind of craziness. That we believe it is all true – only we are not. And we forget who we truly are.
Imagine you are somewhere in nature and in front of you there is a beautiful meadow with flowers of all different kind – simple wild flowers. You look at the meadow and you love it for the one reason that there are so many of them and that they are so different. This is what gives the colorful impression of the meadow.
And now let us have a look at the different flowers. Some a small, you could easily oversee them. But when you get close, you realize their beauty, their tenderness and fragility. Others catch your eye because of their color or their size. Some seem to have a very similar shape, but when you get closer you can see the difference.
They are all beautiful, no matter what size, shape or color they are. And when you get even closer and you take the time to observe flowers of the same kind, you can still see a difference. No one is the same.
And I ask myself – do flowers compare with each other? No, they simply are. And maybe this is their secret. By being simply who they are they shine and they makes us feel good. Of course we will never know how a flower feels, but still we can learn one thing from them:
Being different is beautiful and important. Being different means taking on our own unique place in this world. And we might not even know, at this moment in time, where this place is. But maybe we create it, step by step, through expressing our being different, our thoughts, our smile, our tears, our fragility and vulnerability, our courage, our fears, our love, our anger, our passion and our frustration and whatever waits inside of us to finally be seen, acknowledged and loved – first of all – by ourselves.
Where is the beauty in your being different, in her being different, in his being different, in my being different? Let’s open our eyes, but most of all our hearts, in discovering the uniqueness in each other.
And in the end – when we understand that being different does not mean being less or more worth but simply being unique – we will be able to accept and honour the other’s uniqueness and our own uniqueness, which is nothing more than our true self.
May you discover your uniqueness and let it shine. Without you something would miss in this world.
Wishing you a unique month of June
In 5 weeks I will already be in Malta and am looking so much forward to seeing many of you again.
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The above card was chosen from my card deck of 49 cards for meditation, healing and reconciliation. It is available for sale and should you be interested in having your own cards, please let me know.